The term “codependency” was coined more than 20 years ago by authors who studied the negative impact of drug and alcohol use on families. Since then, use of the term has been expanded to include a pattern of psychologically unhealthy behaviors that are learned by individuals as a way of coping with a family environment marked by ignored or denied emotional turmoil.
Most people are able to enjoy a sense of healthy, mutual interdependence in their lives. However, people with codependency seem to habitually form relationships that are one-sided and emotionally destructive.
This is for every one of us suffering from chronic pain and making it through another day. Stay strong and pat yourself on the back for being a warrior today.
Don’t you just love the “just let it go” people? Such a simple solution for THEM.
If I achieve the “eat more greens” and “attend cooking classes” it will be a success!
This is one of my favourite quotes.
For myself, it took ‘NO CONTACT’, to finally realize that this was the only way I could break free from my Narcissistic mothers’ abuse. I now know that trying to please her was impossible and that she was never going to love me know matter how much I tried.
One of my favourite quotes, love it.
This is especially for everyone who is struggling with depression and PTSD ~ and when we are coping with mental illness stigma.
Love this quote!
The therapist I have been working with for over five years has been amazing, we’ve dealt with some extremely emotional issues including PTSD sexual abuse and maternal narcissism. She validated my feelings and showed the kind of empathy that I’d never received as a child, therefore, I’ve often craved her as a friend. I soon understood boundaries, and realized it just wouldn’t work; therapy isn’t friendship.
A friend told me of an occurrence where friendship ruined the relationship with her and her therapist. She had been meeting X every 3 weeks for roughly 2 years, drudging through many agonizing, uncomfortable, personal issues and trusted X entirely with what she disclosed, more than with any other therapist.
When she was pregnant with her second child, also experiencing difficulties with her spouse, X was there to convey her thoughts to. By the time the baby was to arrive, they worked through marital issues, which alleviated the situation at home and for her.
After the baby was born, she didn’t see X for several months, however, she did phone her to shout with joy that it was a baby girl, and X exclaimed “hooray!” She was ‘on the fence’ about sending baby pictures, yet she did send a few via e-mail in the end and X asked to see more.
and someone you trust, makes you feel worthy, doesn’t criticize or make you feel like crap……
For my Narcissistic mother.
It’s been two years since I’ve cut off ties with her, and although she treated me like crap, I still miss having a ‘mother‘. In therapy, I’m working on the impact of how living as a daughter of a narcissist has affected my life.
Trust has been a huge problem for most of my life, starting in childhood. Firstly trust was broken by the neighbor who sexually abused me, followed by both parents who refused to believe, thus making me apologize. Learning to earn trust again with adults has taken years, mostly through therapy, after all, trust must be earned.
I love Anne Frank’s quotes, this one is so true.
This profound quote on Twitter today says it all:
This was true in my family.
Trust has been a huge issue for me, with problems throughout my life including selecting friends, wary of men or other adults. I took an enormous risk marrying my husband in 1979, we’re still married, so I chose well and my instincts proved it. An abuser, along with my parents, stole that away from me at the age of 8, and are to blame for this. Not fair.
One of my favourite quotes, love it.
“Depression, best known of all the mental illnesses, is difficult to endure and treat. It renders one feeling hopeless and helpless. Experiencing a sort of wintry solitude, one is completely immobilized with any light of optimism dimming. It creates emotional and financial fallout, coupled with a horrible emptiness and black death-like existence. Life tastes sour”. – Deb – Living in Stigma