NARCISSISTIC MATERNAL ABUSE
I wrote this quote referring to the selfishness of my narcissistic mother. She fails to recall the days of ignoring me, joining in on anything I found enjoyable or excited about or the entire way she treated me. Her abuse had an enormous impact on my life, and I remain in therapy.
Now she is elderly, feels isolated and displaying signs of illness. She questions “Why don’t you ever visit or come over for lunch because it’s lonely every day in this apartment?”. Hmmm, I wonder why?
I finally went NO CONTACT three years ago as I was tired of her never-ending abuse.
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Hi, I’ve been following your blog for awhile now, but this one really spoke to me. I had much the same experience with my mother and 14 years ago I did the same thing. I said No more! I was tired of being abused and used and I had to do it for my sanity! Keep up the very hard work, I know how you feel!
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I apologize for the delay, but this was hiding in my spam folder. 😦 Thanks for commenting and following. Yes, I grew weary of her ‘woe is me’, yet still nasty as ever. Enough is enough and going NO Contact was the best move I ever made. I also cut off contact with my brother (golden child), who scratches his head to this day wondering why I never got along with our dear, sweet mother. 🙂
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Been there. My abuse was severe, and I often say I survived my childhood. I write about it; although, I try to tone it down because people become overwhelmed by it.
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I apologize for the late reply but this was in my spam folder! Your other comment came through just fine. I read your post and it was eloquently written. The posts I write about sexual abuse are toned down also, however, I try to remember to attach a “trigger warning”. Thanks for commenting and stopping by. 🙂
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Thank you. I trained in writing in college and have been a freelancer for years. My first love was writing–second psychology, but they go hand-in-hand. What I realized in writing about my abuse is that most people have no reference point for the complete terror to which these types of personalities subject their children. My mother and father were psychopaths. Psychopaths do not play well with their children. I suffered pain and terror relentlessly. Now people figure I should just get over it. Oh that my scars could dissipate so easily.
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Wow, I wished I could have afforded to go to college to fulfill my writing passion, unfortunately, in the 1970’s when you graduated high school and where I lived you took courses to become a secretary 😦 Women were expected to only use their brain for that profession unless you had the money to go to college/university for a degree. Therefore, my writing experience comes from years of having my nose in books to escape the rageful screams of my mother.
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Actually–I went to college in the 70’s. I went on the Pell Grant. I wanted to go into medicine at the time. Turned down an invite when I was 23. Followed a hell of a long trail to get my degree. Had a prof create a one-on-one course in writing for me in my 30’s. Stuck my nose in them books when I was a kid, too. It was the only time my mother left me alone. I had a mentor in writing when I hit the University, so I was doubly lucky. I raised two kids alone after my husband died in 1980. Took me a loooong time to finish college.
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Kudos to you, and pat yourself on the back with raising 2 kids and getting a degree as a single parent. I read your post on having MS and sorry to hear of your struggle with that invisible illness. Did you want to do some guest posts for my blog? You’re welcome to. I’m very isolated now with chronic migraines and on CPP (Canada) disability (gov’t) until I’m 65. Luckily, I’m still on my former company’s health plan which pays for medication, therapy and a few other necessities. This blog give me a purpose everyday.
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I’d love to, but I am just keeping up with my work. I’m finishing a book and just got invited to submit my resume today for a job offer. Great to have a new friend, though.
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Sure, just let me know. 🙂
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I will and thank you.
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Actually–I’m just barely able to keep up with my own work. I’m finishing a book, and I’ve just been invited to submit a resume for a freelance position. I could use a friend though…
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Crossed fingers for the freelance position and you’ve got a new friend. Have a great weekend.
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