Explaining emotional abuse from the ‘roots’

A Narcissistic Parent will drench fresh water on their golden child s plant daily yet merely permitting the scapegoat child s plant to receive tiny sprinkles of water on the odd day forever shadowed by the sun Deb McCarthy

I learned this bit of wisdom from my therapist during one of our many sessions discussing my narcissistic mother.  She explained it very clearly how a parent has children (plants); she waters some and helps them grow and flourish, yet the others who aren’t so lucky receive less attention and ignored.  I now understood how my mother cared and treated my brother vs. myself.   Do any of you feel this way?

 

8 thoughts on “Explaining emotional abuse from the ‘roots’

  1. Lynda Lee/@LadyQuixote says:

    Yes, I feel this way, too. I was the scapegoat beginning in the 1950s and I am the scapegoat still. But it’s ok, now that I havestopped going back to that bone dry well, looking for love from a now elderly mother who never did love me and never will love me. It took me a lot of decades to get to this point, though!

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    • cherished79 says:

      Ditto for me. It took me 50 years to find out the name for her viciousness was the “narcissistic personality disorder”, and as soon as I was born a daughter, I believed she hated and resented me. How can you win? I finally went NO CONTACT just 3 years ago. I couldn’t take it anymore, realized nothing would change and wanted nothing more to do with her. Best choice I ever made. I’m sorry you had to experience the same abuse, it’s a sad and painful way to grow up always believing that you were the cause of her rage. Hugs to you. Deb xx

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