Why doesn’t she just leave him?

Really?  And women should just up and leave an abusive relationship; as if it were that easy.

‘Why doesn’t she just leave?’ is a timeworn question about women trapped in relationships that are physically and/or emotionally abusive to them.  Economic dependence is clearly part of the story — many women lack the financial means to leave and find themselves trapped by both poverty and abuse.

Of the women who do attempt to escape the abuse, some opt to petition a judge for a civil restraining order, also called a Protection From Abuse (PFA) order, for protection from abuse, harassment, threats, or intimidation. Research shows that PFAs can promote women’s safety and help women manage the threat of abuse.

However, a new study by two University of Pittsburgh sociologists shows that turning to the courts may not be effective at helping these women earn more money or even return to their prior level of earnings growth.

Pitt Professor of Sociology Lisa Brush and Associate Professor of Sociology Melanie Hughes in the Kenneth P. Dietrich School of Arts and Sciences have coauthored “The Price of Protection: A Trajectory Analysis of Civil Remedies for Abuse and Women’s Earnings,” published in a recent issue of American Sociological Review, the flagship journal of the American Sociological Association.

The paper investigates changes in women’s earnings before and after they petition the courts for a restraining order against an abuser. Although one might theorize that such an order would clear the way for the woman to return to work and increase her earnings,

Brush and Hughes found overwhelming evidence that this period of petitioning is accompanied by serious financial instability, vulnerability, and hardship for women. In fact, the researchers estimate that women lose anywhere between $312 and $1,018 dollars in the year after petitioning and further analysis indicates the women are not recouping these losses later.

The remainder of this article @  ScienceDaily.com   http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/03/150306102724.htm


20 thoughts on “Why doesn’t she just leave him?

    • cherished79 says:

      Sorry for the late reply but you were in my spam folder? Yes, easy for others to judge and state their opinion, when they really don’t know the circumstances. Thanks for commenting. 🙂


  1. Neha says:

    Every girls should be strong and they should not let men dominate them financially as well as physically. As soon as they get to see that their relationship is becoming abusive, they should leave listening to anyone and fight alone. It will be more happier than living under the person who abuses a woman.


  2. maxlcrepeau says:

    I love the way people make judgements, assume it’s that easy and don’t know the situation.

    I remember years ago,when I worked at a bank as a teller, one morning we opened the bank and a very distraught woman was waiting.


    • cherished79 says:

      People love to judge, however, if the tables were turned they would be horrified for someone to judge them. They also like spewing their opinions on topics they no nothing about which makes them ignorant.


  3. Bugsmetwo says:

    I am and forever will be grateful I was able to file a PFA from my first husband. I was able to take the time granted (a whole year) to get myself and my two children back on our feet! I will always be grateful to V.P. Joe Biden for enacting the ability to file a PFA as it was him who started the whole protection from abuse order for women (before he was V.P. of course).

    It is not easy to leave and when finances or emotional constraints are present, it makes it that much harder.


    • cherished79 says:

      Fantastic! I love the way people make judgements, assume it’s that easy and don’t know the situation. These are people who have never been through it, yet love to give an opinion. So happy you were a success, yet it must have been such a struggle also. Pat yourself on the back. 🙂

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  4. Leslie says:

    I remember years ago,when I worked at a bank as a teller, one morning we opened the bank and a very distraught woman was waiting. She came in to take money out of her joint account that she held with her husband. However, he had come in the day before and cleaned it out to zero. Only after he did that, did he tell his wife he was leaving her.

    Now, I don’t know if there was abuse in this relationship, but her experience left me with a vivid memory and a fear. He had kicked her out and left her with no money. She didn’t know where she was going to go, she didn’t know how she would get there when she found somewhere to go. She didn’t have a job and hadn’t for years, so it wasn’t as if there was a paycheck coming that she could count on.

    It was a very scary situation for her. And it does highlight a bit how woman could stay with a man because there is no financial way for her to leave.


    • cherished79 says:

      Wow, sad story and not surprised that this happened. Sounds as if he was the controller in that relationship, and I suppose you could call it spite and greed (there are more words, but you get the picture), she probably feared him; he of course didn’t give a shit about her. You never know what’s going to happen when you get married, it’s kind of a crap shoot as you think you know someone and then they change after the ceremony ends.


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