5 Things Sociopaths and Narcissists Say to Make You Feel Crazy

When you hear the word “psychopath”, you might think of Hannibal Lecter or Ted Bundy, but most psychopaths are actually non-violent and non-incarcerated members of society. In fact, there’s a good chance they’ll seem exceptionally altruistic and innocent to the average onlooker.

As described in the Psychopath Free book (author Jackson MacKenzie), psychopaths are first and foremost social predators. With no conscience, they’re able to use charm and manipulation to get what they want from others—whether it be families, friendships, relationships, cults, the workplace, or even politics. The bottom line is, they modify their personalities to become exactly the person they think you want them to be. And they’re good at it.

But when they no longer need anything from you, that’s when the crazy-making behavior begins. Here are some common phrases you’ll hear from a psychopath who’s trying to make you doubt your sanity:

1. “You over-analyze everything.”

Of course, there are people who DO read too much into situations. The difference with psychopaths is that you’ll always discover you were correct in retrospect. They intentionally do things to make you feel on-edge or paranoid, like flirt with a once-denounced ex over social media for the whole world to see. When you question them, they accuse you of over-analyzing the situation. But then a month later, you discover they were actually cheating with that person. Psychopaths want you to doubt your intuition by making you feel like a crazy detective, constantly planting hints to make you feel anxious and then blaming you for having that anxiety.

2. “I hate drama.”

And yet, you’ll soon come to discover there’s more drama surrounding them than anyone you’ve ever known. Psychopaths will first idealize you above everyone else, praising you for your perfect easy-going nature. But because they are perpetually bored, this never lasts long.

They are pathological liars, serial cheaters, and eternal victims. Before long, these qualities inevitably start to surface and cause you overwhelming confusion. Anytime you mention your concerns or frustration, they’ll declare their hatred of drama and make you feel bad for reacting to their horrible behavior (instead of addressing the behavior itself).

3. “You’re so sensitive.”

Psychopaths manufacture emotions in others—it’s what they do. After once showering you with 24/7 praise and flattery, they’ll ignore you for days on end and wait for you to react. When you finally do, they’ll accuse you of being sensitive or needy. They’ll insult, belittle, and criticize you (usually in a teasing/joking demeanor), pushing your boundaries until you finally speak up. Then they use your manufactured reactions to make you seem crazy. Within weeks, psychopaths can turn an exceptionally easy-going person into an unrecognizable mess of insecurities and self-doubt.

4. “You misunderstood me.”

Sure, healthy couples have misunderstandings and miscommunications all the time. But with psychopaths, they’ll intentionally say things they know will provoke you. Then when you react, they’ll turn it around on you and blame you for misunderstanding. Oftentimes, they’ll even deny that they ever said it. This is called gaslighting—blatantly doing or saying something, and then blaming you for misinterpreting it (or denying that it even took place). The fact is, you understood what they said perfectly fine. They’re just trying to make you doubt your sanity.

5. “You’re crazy/bipolar/jealous/bitter/in love with me.”

The name-calling usually starts when things are going downhill fast. According to a psychopath, all of their ex-lovers, colleagues, and friends are crazy, bipolar, jealous, bitter, or in love with them. This becomes very confusing when they start reaching out to those very same people they once denounced to you, using them to triangulate and cause chaos (making the psychopath appear in high-demand at all times). Then they toss you in that very same “crazy” bucket, continuing their never-ending cycle of idealizing and devaluing anyone unfortunate enough to cross their path.

The only way out is to go No Contact. This means no texts, calls, emails, or even Facebook friendships. Otherwise, you can be guaranteed that they’ll do anything and everything in their power to make you feel crazy. The good news is, when a psychopath tries to make you doubt your intuition, it means your intuition was causing them trouble.

Psychopaths seek to psychologically destroy anyone who might threaten their illusion of normalcy to the world. So when they begin playing mind games with you, it’s actually a strange indirect tribute to your ability to notice that something was “off” about them.

Article source: Written by JACKSON MACKENZIE @ The Minds Journal.com

You might also want to read more about Emotional Abuse here

The Toxic Attraction Between An Empath And A Narcissist

Signs You’re Arguing With A Psychopath 

originally posted on my niume.com blog

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I am a Mental Health Advocate for mental illness Stigma. In 2007, I created the "Living in Stigma" blog, with the purpose and anticipation of educating people about mental illness. Depression is part of this illness, which intertwines with those struggling with PTSD, chronic pain, and other invisible illnesses. I am a chronic migraine sufferer myself, and a sexual and emotional abuse survivor. My passions are writing, poetry, and art. All abuse Survivors are also Warriors.

20 thoughts on “5 Things Sociopaths and Narcissists Say to Make You Feel Crazy”

  1. As a long term survivor of psychopathic abuse I agree with the article fully. The only remedy is NO CONTACT as there is no fair fight with these monstors. Any relationship is one of inevetable harm. Please see my book on the subject – Free 05/15-05/19https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=tales+from+the+psychopaths+playground&rh=n%3A283155%2Ck%3Atales+from+the+psychopaths+playground

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  2. After i broke up with my ex who was a complete sociopath…I was broken as hell. He broke my spirit completely. Once i realized he was the problem and not me I oddly didn’t feel relief but GUILT? like it was my fault for not being smart enough to walk away or see the truth. pretty crazy how powerful they can be. connected with your article 100%

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  3. This is such a good description of my ex that it’s almost shocking. I wish I had understood at the time that this was a predictable pattern of a narcissist. Instead, for the longest time, he really did have me believing that I was the problem.

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    1. They do what they can to manipulate you, and they will never change. It’s going No Contact, if you are able to make that decision, otherwise your life will never improve. I had to do that with my narcissistic mother, nothing was ever going to change, she was going to be the nasty bitch I grew up with and I gave her too many chances. Thanks for commenting. 🙂


      1. I couldn’t do No Contact for years because he was the father of my children and had visitation rights. He definitely used that to keep on punishing me! But once they graduated from high school, I finally got free of him.

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  4. I was married to a narcissist. And he did get very vicious when I finally saw the problem was him not me and I could not be manipulated anymore. This stage followed the stage where he went to marriage counseling with me and was very charming and sweet saying that he only wanted to make me happy. He was so destructive. A good therapist supported me while I stood up to this psychopath and gained my freedom.

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    1. Therapy is what’s needed and an important solution to emotional abuse. It allows you feel validated and realizes for the first time that none of what went on between your partner and yourself was ever your fault. Narcissists are evil and will never change. Pat yourself on the back for how strong you were for putting up with his crap. 🙂

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