I have CPTSD (sexual and emotional abuse), and just hearing the word “fake” & “scam” was an enough to cause an actual trigger to my past, coupled with huge anxiety and intense anger.
Yesterday, while sitting in a coffee shop sipping tea and reading a book, two women around 30 – 40 years of age sitting behind me, actually had this conversation. True story. I’ll call them A & B.
A –Do you believe in all of this PTSD shit?
B –I don’t know what to think sometimes. I do know a co-worker who’s sister is going to therapy for it, I don’t know what exactly for, but she just said something that happened to her when she was young and has PTSD now.
A –Do you think it’s for real, or is she looking for attention? How old is her sister?
B –I think she’s in her 30’s, not sure. It’s something about molestation or something, I didn’t want to ask and be nosey.
A –Yeah right, like she can remember things that happened when she was a kid!
B –Well it’s her business
A –I’m just asking because I saw a show last night showing how some men in the military and some police are actually faking having this PTSD, just to collect disability. Some of them have collected $100,000.00, what a shame when people that have an actual disability need it.
And, their discussion continued……..
PTSD is a psychiatric disorder that can occur in people who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic event such as a natural disaster, a serious accident, a terrorist act, war/combat, rape, or other violent personal assault. PTSD is a real illness that causes real suffering. (source: psychiatry.org/ptsd)
Wow, is this the way scores of people perceive people with PTSD? I hope not, and all of the fakers out there get their day in court because that would be fraudulent and a scam, but for all of us who have struggled with flashbacks, horrible memories and sought therapy as the only way to recover, it’s heart-breaking.
People who have not suffered or struggled with PTSD can’t even begin to experience the “walk in my shoes” of this hellish life; where an adult still sleeps with the bedroom light on, often triggered by any sound, smell or sight that reminds them of their trauma, or has experienced betrayal from a close relationship and forever has problems with trust issues.
If only they knew that healing from such trauma involves years of talk therapy, opening up old wounds, revisiting the past with the people who abused them and whom they wouldn’t have to ‘see’ again or experiencing the actual abuse as if it was yesterday.
Abuses and trauma damage lives, sometimes leading to a life of depression, guilt and despair; destroying relationships, with others spiraling into a life of substance abuse or alcohol.
No, we are not fakes or scammers.
Written and copyrighted by Deb McCarthy/2017