I really enjoyed reading this article today titled “The Debt” in which it asked just that, do we owe parents who have abused us during our lives anything when we are adults?
For me, I positively don’t owe my mother anything. Here is the woman who spewed out vicious words, ignored me, displayed rare empathy, criticized, ranted, raved, and left me feeling worthless and undervalued.
My father passed away in 2012 and I (the scapegoat) only have one sibling (my brother, the golden child).
Our last conversation(s) were similar to this:
“Deb, since your dad died it’s been really lonely, I have no friends and have to do everything by myself. You have a husband there all of the time to help you, I have no one. It’s really depressing, all alone in the apartment with nothing to do but watch TV. Your brother is always there if I need him, but you never seem to come over very often. I know you don’t have the car much and I said I could drive you to appointments or to the mall, but you always say you take the bus. We are family and we should do things for each other.”
She wants, and needs me now, yet she hasn’t changed her narcissistic personality at all, and most likely never will. She can’t have me now, it’s too late mom you blew it.